You keep a ledger
Every slight is recorded and none is forgotten.
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Put down a resentment that is poisoning a relationship.
A course on resentment, the grudge that outlives its cause. It covers what resentment is doing for you, deciding what needs to be said, and how to let go of the rest without pretending it was fine.
Open Cadence on the App Store, type the sentence when it asks what you want to learn, and answer a few setup questions. Free to start. Android testers can request early access.
Type this when Cadence asks what you want to learn
I am carrying resentment towards someone close to me and it is poisoning the relationship. Help me understand what resentment is, decide what needs saying, and let go of the rest.
Change any word so it fits your situation. The course is built from what you type and a few setup questions.
- Best for
- Relationships
- Prerequisites
- None. Bring the situation you have.
- Course length
- 7 to 30 lessons, sized to your goal
- Lesson pace
- About 10 minutes a day
- Format
- Read it, or play the audio
- Access
- Available on the App Store, with early features and Android testing access
Before the course is built
Setup asks about your situation first.
Lesson 1 opens on the moment you describe, and the examples use your role. For this request, expect questions like these.
- Who is it toward: a partner, parent, sibling, friend, or colleague?
- Is the cause something they did, something they keep doing, or something they never acknowledged?
- Have you told them, or has it stayed inside?
Right for now
If any of this sounds familiar, start here.
You are polite and seething
The relationship looks fine and feels hollow.
Forgiving feels like losing
Letting go would mean they got away with it.
Course arc
Where the course goes, in order.
Cadence writes the lessons for you, so the exact path follows your answers. This is the ground a course built from this sentence covers.
01 / 06What resentment is
Unexpressed anger, unmet need and the protection of a grievance.
What it is doing for you
Safety, justice and identity, and the price of each.
The ledger
Why we keep score and what closing the book takes.
What needs saying
Deciding which grievances deserve a conversation, and having it.
Releasing the rest
Letting go that is not forgetting or excusing.
Going forward
Preventing the next resentment by speaking sooner.
What changes
What you will be able to do, and what you will stop believing.
You will be able to
Understand resentment
See what holding on is doing for you and what it costs.
Decide what to say
Separate what needs a conversation from what needs releasing.
Let go without pretending
Release the grudge while still holding what was true.
Ideas this course corrects
Letting go means they win
Holding on means they keep taking. Letting go is for you.
Forgiveness requires an apology
It helps. It is not required, and waiting for one can mean waiting forever.
Course questions
What to know before you start.
Is this a fixed course?
No. Cadence builds the course when you type the sentence and answer a few setup questions, so the lessons follow your situation. This page describes what a course built from this request covers. You see the whole path before Lesson 1.
Who is this course for?
A course on resentment, the grudge that outlives its cause. It covers what resentment is doing for you, deciding what needs to be said, and how to let go of the rest without pretending it was fine. It sits under Relationships in the Life & growth part of the library.
Do I need any prior experience?
No. Setup asks what you already know and where you want to use it, and the course starts from there. Bring a real situation if you have one; the examples are built around it.
How long does it take?
Courses run 7 to 30 lessons of about 10 minutes, sized to what you asked for. One lesson a day is the intended pace, and you can go faster. Lessons can be read or played as audio.
Does this course award a certificate or degree?
No. Cadence is for practical self-learning and does not award accredited degrees or professional certification.
Start today
Type it, answer a few questions, open Lesson 1.
The sentence to type
I am carrying resentment towards someone close to me and it is poisoning the relationship. Help me understand what resentment is, decide what needs saying, and let go of the rest.
Open Cadence on the App Store, type the sentence when it asks what you want to learn, and answer a few setup questions. Free to start. Android testers can request early access.