You keep checking their profile
Each look resets the ache you were starting to get past.
Courses
Start with three things you can do today
How to get over a breakup
Move through a breakup at a pace you can live with.
Understand why a breakup can feel like grief and losing a routine at once, then make practical choices about contact, reminders, empty evenings and support. The course separates ordinary heartbreak from low mood that needs a doctor, and rebuilds a week that belongs to you.
Type this when Cadence asks what you want to learn
My relationship ended a few months ago and I still think about it every day. I want to understand what is happening to me, stop checking their profile, and build a life that feels like mine again.
Change any word so it fits your situation. The course is built from what you type and a few setup questions.
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Four things you can do before the course exists.
Useful on their own. The course is for when you want the whole skill, not just the first move.
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Set a contact rule for the next month
Write it in one line, for example: 'No messages or profile checks until the end of next month, except about the flat deposit.' If you share children or a home, keep contact brief and practical. Mute or archive their profiles so checking takes effort. If the relationship was controlling or you feel unsafe, talk to a domestic abuse service first.
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Plan the worst hour of the week
Most people can name it: Sunday evening, the commute home, the time you used to call. Put something specific there this week, such as a walk with a friend at 7pm on Sunday, so the gap is not empty when it arrives.
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Write the ending once
Spend 20 minutes writing what happened, including your part and theirs, as if explaining it to a fair friend. When you catch yourself replaying it later, remind yourself the account already exists instead of drafting a new one.
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Watch for signs it is more than heartbreak
Sadness, poor sleep and low appetite are common after a breakup. The NHS advises seeing a GP if low mood lasts more than 2 weeks or you are struggling to cope. If you have thoughts of harming yourself, get urgent help now.
Sources: NHS: low mood, sadness and depression; NHS: getting help for domestic violence and abuse. Practical examples are starting points, not promised results.
- Best for
- Relationships
- Prerequisites
- None. Bring the situation you have.
- Course length
- 7 to 30 lessons, sized to your goal
- Lesson pace
- About 10 minutes a day
- Format
- Read it, or play the audio
- Access
- Available on the App Store, with early features and Android testing access
Before the course is built
Setup asks about your situation first.
Lesson 1 opens on the moment you describe, and the examples use your role. For this request, expect questions like these.
- How long ago did the relationship end, and who ended it?
- Are you still in contact, or do you share friends, a home or children?
- What is hardest right now: the evenings, the memories, or the future you had planned?
Right for now
If any of this sounds familiar, start here.
You replay the ending
Searching for the one moment that would have changed everything.
Your routines were built for two
Weekends, friends and plans now have gaps in them.
Course arc
Where the course goes, in order.
Cadence writes the lessons for you, so the exact path follows your answers. This is the ground a course built from this sentence covers.
01 / 06Why it hurts this much
Losing a person, a routine and an imagined future all at once.
Contact and reminders
No contact, limited contact, and what to do with photos and feeds.
The story of what happened
Writing a fair account of the ending instead of replaying it.
The empty hours
Planning the evenings and weekends that feel worst.
Friends and shared circles
Telling people, asking for support and handling mutual friends.
Looking forward
Noticing when you are ready for new plans, without a deadline.
What changes
What you will be able to do, and what you will stop believing.
You will be able to
Understand the reaction
Recognise why the loss can affect sleep, appetite and focus, and why it eases unevenly.
Decide on contact
Choose a contact rule that fits your situation, including shared children or housing.
Rebuild a week
Fill the specific gaps with people and plans that are yours.
Know when to get help
Tell ordinary heartbreak from low mood that needs a professional.
Ideas this course corrects
You should be over it after a set amount of time
Recovery varies with the length of the relationship, how it ended and what else is happening in your life. There is no fixed timetable.
Staying close friends straight away proves you are fine
Some people manage it, but frequent contact can keep hope or hurt alive. Some distance first is often kinder to both people.
Course questions
What to know before you start.
How to get over a breakup: what can I do today?
Set a contact rule for the next month. Write it in one line, for example: 'No messages or profile checks until the end of next month, except about the flat deposit.' If you share children or a home, keep contact brief and practical. Mute or archive their profiles so checking takes effort. If the relationship was controlling or you feel unsafe, talk to a domestic abuse service first. Plan the worst hour of the week. Most people can name it: Sunday evening, the commute home, the time you used to call. Put something specific there this week, such as a walk with a friend at 7pm on Sunday, so the gap is not empty when it arrives. Write the ending once. Spend 20 minutes writing what happened, including your part and theirs, as if explaining it to a fair friend. When you catch yourself replaying it later, remind yourself the account already exists instead of drafting a new one. Watch for signs it is more than heartbreak. Sadness, poor sleep and low appetite are common after a breakup. The NHS advises seeing a GP if low mood lasts more than 2 weeks or you are struggling to cope. If you have thoughts of harming yourself, get urgent help now.
Is this a fixed course?
No. Cadence builds the course when you type the sentence and answer a few setup questions, so the lessons follow your situation. This page describes what a course built from this request covers. You see the whole path before Lesson 1.
Who is this course for?
Understand why a breakup can feel like grief and losing a routine at once, then make practical choices about contact, reminders, empty evenings and support. The course separates ordinary heartbreak from low mood that needs a doctor, and rebuilds a week that belongs to you. It sits under Relationships in the Life & growth part of the library.
Do I need any prior experience?
No. Setup asks what you already know and where you want to use it, and the course starts from there. Bring a real situation if you have one; the examples are built around it.
How long does it take?
Courses run 7 to 30 lessons of about 10 minutes, sized to what you asked for. One lesson a day is the intended pace, and you can go faster. Lessons can be read or played as audio.
Does this course award a certificate or degree?
No. Cadence is for practical self-learning and does not award accredited degrees or professional certification.
Start today
Type it, answer a few questions, open Lesson 1.
The sentence to type
My relationship ended a few months ago and I still think about it every day. I want to understand what is happening to me, stop checking their profile, and build a life that feels like mine again.